To womenhood

4:00 am in the morning,at the airport she started bleeding 7 days before she expected, unprepared she panicked in the washroom, boarding had started she could not go back to the shopping area,and when she decided to board and ask someone for help on board,a kind lady came for her rescue ,they did not even exchange their names and she parted with a sense of gratitude for a stranger and decided to always carry hygiene products so that she could help someone in need someday too .

Can’t imagine my life without maa and this girl.
Badi mummy,thank you for raising us all so well.

She lost her mother when she was 18 ,she was pregnant today,was struggling daily on how to do the right thing for her baby,her husband was there for her,but,it was not enough,he would try ,still that was not enough,a friend of hers who stayed near by,came for her rescue would spend time with her ,take her for walks,listen to her and just be there for her,this friend was the first person after her husband who took her baby daughter in her arms,she might not be in touch with this friend of hers ,but she will always be thankful and pray for her wellbeing.

We love you auntie and nani

She was going through an abusive marriage,he would not touch her ,but would curse her and yell at her,she could not share with her parents,she just could not bother them,her elder cousin came to her rescue,she listened to what the issue was, confronted the husband ,gave her a piece of their mind and stood there like a rock for her baby sister.

It was her final year of post graduation,she had emergency duties,her mother fell ill,just before her exams ,she had to choose between her mother and her degree,she was lucky to have a collegue who covered up for her and did emergency duties for 5 days at a stretch. They both might not be in touch today ,but always pray for each other’s well being.

They were not giving her maternity leaves ,her baby had to be breast fed,she and her friends protested,but the authorities did not pay heed,she would bring her baby to the hospital and her friends would take care of the baby when she would work.

She was touched inappropriately,would not let a male come near her,her neighbour was a single mother,she restored her faith in love and let her believe that all men are not monsters there are good men out there too.She eventually started believing her,and now knows her worth above everything else.

Love you didda

Didi I look upto you.

This women’s day I decide to stop judging and critisising women for their choices,if she wants to dress like that ,it is her choice,if she wants to not get married it is her choice,if she wants to pursue sports ,it is her choice,if she wants to open up ,it is her choice.

She is vulnerable,she is strong,

she is Caring,she knows how to move on.

She is loving,loves herself above all.

She will nurture you with all she has.

She will be there for you ,no matter what.

She doesn’t need a goddess status,the only thing she asks for is equality in opportunity, making mistakes,in finding love,and freedom to be.She loves her men,and knows where they come from,she knows they need her tender love,she understands they are not all at fault, plans to raise one of her own,someday above gender biases she wants to raise a boy or a girl who will be above these gender biases.Let us all support each other,look out for each other, acknowledge the divine feminity .


Torn apart…

Two worlds and she was one.

She after allot of struggle had finally become one with herself.

But now there were two worlds.

She had to choose.

She had to choose for the first time ever,as till now it was always chosen for her.

The ball was in her court this time.

She had to choose between two precious things.

it was like choosing between two arms.

Like choosing between two children.

Like choosing between two eyes.

It was tough .

She felt torn apart.

Torn apart yet again.

She felt like giving up.

Letting go once again.

Two worlds and none were her.

She decided to let go of both the Worlds and make her own .

Many people face allot of difficulty in Taking decisions, decisions of daily life or important decisions and it is taxing ,very stressful at times.

Having difficulty taking decisions might be a sign of depression.When one is in the throes of despair, there may be a pessimistic view of reasonable options and an inability to act and think.People want others to tak decisions for them.

Indecision can also stem from anxiety.

Anxiety of making the wrong decision, anxiety of hurting people,of letting people down.The fear of making the wrong decision and then facing the consequences is paralysing for a few people.

Indecision might also be due to obsessive traits , obsession for perfection , difficulty in discarding old ,futile items (hoarders with a thought that it might be useful in the future).

So,if anyone of is having incapacitating difficulty(a little difficulty and weighing various options is normal) in taking decisions,the first thing you have to do is rule out any underlying psychiatric illness.

There are various exercises and techniques which help with this difficulty which is taught in behaviour therapies.

One of them is the pros and cons list.

In which one has to make a list of all the possible options , choosing and thinking of the options creatively and then Making a list of pros and cons .

One is also suggested to make a long term vs short term list of pros and cons.All of this done with the aim of productive and more thoughtful decision making.

Whether it is due to a psychiatric Illness or you are just in one of those phases of life where you are standing on the crossroads,you have to go either here or there.This helps and ofcourse discussions with people you trust makes things easier.

Insight into the problem is the first them in overcoming it.

And yes if it is due to the mental illness , eventually with all the other symptoms this will also improve on taking treatment.

So cheers it is not that bad,reach out,you are not alone.